WELCOME!
We are so glad that you found us!
We are Jeni and Calvin, relationship transformation mentors, speakers, educators, and creators of PowerfuLove.
Our journey... Led us to you!
Our relationship has not always been easy.
In fact, for many years it was EPICALLY HARD– full of pain, struggle, conflict, communication breakdown, distance, disconnect, giving up and then trying again…
Not even Jeni’s PhD and private practice in couples therapy was enough to save our relationship.
We were drained and defeated, consumed by our struggles, and it was affecting every other area of our lives–kids, business, finances, health… you name it. Something had to change, or we weren't going to make it.
Thankfully, we figured it out and transformed our relationship from disconnected and dissatisfied into an easy, fulfilling, 99% conflict-free relationship of our dreams!
Looking back, we are grateful for everything we went through… because it forced us to learn what no book nor class nor career ever could…
Our journey taught us what it REALLY takes… not only to make relationships work long-term…
But how to make them EXTRAORDINARY! Easy… fulfilling… energizing… fun!
And it has been this experience……
this realization of how MUCH our relationships have to offer…
…how they can bring us into the fullest expressions of ourselves, the reaching of our highest potential, and realization of our greatest dreams of impact, abundance, purpose, and fulfillment…
That has brought us to this work.
The Work We Do
Our work offers high-level expert support, critically conscious relationship education, love-based accountability, and powerful experiences that create unbelievable transformation in the folx who work with us.
We proudly support ALL identities and relationship structures... and we represent many of them.
What Sets Us Apart
First of all, WE are different (and proudly so!), and our authenticity and lived experiences shine through.
But aside from that... here's what sets PowerfuLove apart from other solutions out there:
We support you individually AND as a couple.
Each of you has your own experiences, thoughts, and needs, requiring individual support. Your relationship, as a unique entity, also needs dedicated attention and healing. Our approach provides comprehensive support through personalized coaching, classes, integration exercises, and community, addressing both individual and relationship needs effectively. It's the best of all worlds, and IT WORKS!
You get BOTH of us.
We work together as a team in support of your team. Each of you will have the opportunity to work with each of us, and we stay in constant communication to keep aligned and informed about your progress. When working with you as a couple, both of us are present, offering diverse perspectives and a balanced approach. You benefit from our combined expertise, which blends masculine and feminine energies, different nervous system responses, different locations of privilege and identity, of neurodivergence and neurotypicality, of traditional relationship training and hard-won personal growth and authenticity... and so much more.
The courses and curriculum are GOLD!
We’ve developed a powerful and transformational core program that delivers rapid, profound healing and growth for couples. All of our curriculum and courses combines cutting-edge insights from relationship psychology, mindset, neuroscience, spirituality, and personal growth into engaging, easy-to-understand lessons that make the learning process both transformational and enjoyable. The proven results speak for themselves!
We don't stop at learning and talking.
We know that real change comes from
doing. This is why in both our mentorship and our courses, we invite you to engage in powerful action steps and integration exercises. We want to help you build momentum and keep it, so that you not only stop the downward spiral in your relationship, but then create an upward spiral that LASTS!
Community is essential. Too often, we keep our relationship struggles and desires quiet. No one wants to "air their dirty laundry" or admit that things aren't as good as they want them to be! Trust us... you're not alone. We all benefit from connection and community--from solidarity and support-from encouragement and accountability. We learn from one another, teach one another, and better each other's lives and relationships by opening up to the power of community.
Our Values & Beliefs
These are the principle beliefs and commitments that underlie and guide everything we do.
Love Over Fear
We believe that love is the way. When we can release ourselves from fear and choose to step into love, we access healing, connection, and personal empowerment. Learning how to consciously choose love over fear is a central tenant to our work.
Empowered Accountability
This is the foundational framework we teach and transform relationships through. It acknowledges that you have power and influence in your relationship, and supports you to identify how to be an effective agent of change for the better.
Anti-Oppression
Power and privilege dynamics matter. We are committed to ongoing self-reflective, social justice, and anti-oppressive journeys, attention to intersectionality, oppression, and equity dynamics in ourselves, our relationships, and our work.
Happiness Starts Within
Happiness is an inside job, and while our partner(s) can add to our happiness, they cannot be responsible for it. Thus, we believe that prioritizing ways to honor, heal, and fulfill our own hearts and parts is a necessary part of transforming our relationship.
Authenticity
Authenticity is essential for truly happy and fulfilling relationships. Each person must find the courage to connect with and show up in their truth– their fullest expression of self. We support our clients in doing just that.
Relationships Are Essential
Relationships are a cornerstone to well-being. We believe that most of the suffering in the world is caused by relationships that aren’t working, and that helping relationships to work better and easier can change the world.
Challenges Serve Us
We believe that relationships are catalysts for the most important growth, healing, and expansion we are being called to do in this life. Thus, we see all challenges as being here to support our highest good.
Relationship R(E)volution
The “typical” expectations for and approaches to relationships aren’t working for people. We need a new, more evolved, more CONSCIOUS approach to navigating problems, solutions, and love. We’re here to find it, practice it, and teach it.
Infinite Possibilities
There are SO many possibilities for creating a joyfully fulfilling love and life. We believe that we are co-creating with Source; thus NOTHING is impossible. And while we may not know how, we trust that there IS a way, and that we’re ALWAYS being guided toward our greatest good.
Identities Matter.
We identify as a queer, trans, polyamorous, interracial, neurodiverse, entrepreneurial, spiritual, blended-family, trail-blazing, boldly authentic, wildly courageous, and soul-mate connected couple.
On a Personal Note...
When not busy supporting our clients, working on our business, teaching, speaking, or parenting, (haha! Is there still time!? Yes!)... we can be found recharging with cuddles and our favorite shows, going on walks, connecting with nature (in the gorgeous PNW just outside of Seattle, WA), enjoying food we don't have to cook, and dreaming about our next big adventure.
More about Dr. Jeni Wahlig
I identify as gender-defiant femme, greysexual queer, and polyamorous. I am also white, able-bodied, educated, a biological mom to 1 and a co-parent to 3 more. I am a relationship nerd, spiritual (but not religious--I believe we are ALL powerful creators living in a magical universe full of possibilities!), a feminist, and an advocate for equity, accountability, anti-oppression work, and decolonization efforts. These pieces of my identity shape me and influence every corner of my life.
Professionally, I received my PhD in couple and family therapy in 2017 from Antioch University New England. I specialized in relationship success factors, same-sex relationships, and trans issues. After working for nearly a decade as a licensed individual and couples therapist, I left my practice to start PowerfuLove with Calvin.
I was disheartened by the slow progress of couples therapy, the restrictions and regulations on how and where I could support my clients, and I knew that I wanted to help couples experience quicker and more lasting transformations. I also wanted to work specifically with folx who were highly committed to creating extraordinary relationships, and I wanted to be able to show up more authentically in the work I was doing. And here, I get to do all of these things!
Personally, I LOVE to read (and often have about a dozen books going at once!). I'm a doer... and it can be hard for me to slow down sometimes. Butand, if you get me in a hammock (my favorite place in the world), I can chill for hours reading, journaling, and communing with nature. I love my bare feet on soft grass, climbing trees, snuggling my kitty, and doing jigsaw puzzles. I enjoy painting with acrylics and drawing with chalks. And I love love love to travel and have new adventures, especially with Calvin!
More about Coach Calvin Osili
I identify as a heterosexual and polyamorous man. I am trans 🏳️⚧️, bi-racial 1st gen Nigerian-American, neurodivergent, mostly able-bodied, a bio-dad to three and parent to two more.
My career has taken many surprising turns. While I got my BS in biology and was once well on my way to a career as a doctor, I switched gears just before entering med school because something in me knew that wasn’t my path. I spent 15 years in Healthcare IT, primarily in roles of leadership and mentoring and achieved my PMP and other software certifications.
Still unsatisfied with the work I was doing, I found that what I really loved was supporting people in their own professional and personal growth. So, in early 2019, I made my shift to coaching and achieved several certifications from a few amazing teachers and thought leaders.
I recognized, however, that I had a real gift and interest in supporting and coaching couples through the challenges
of creating a relationship that actually feels good to be in!
I love witnessing the transformations that are possible in the person, in the relationship and how it has a beautiful ripple effect into all of the other areas of life.
I realize that relationships are everywhere. The framework we teach also helps improve interpersonal relationships around you especially at work. I also really enjoy doing individual
coaching work with executives and leaders to help them become the compassionate, collaborative, inspirational, and transformational leader they aspire to be.
Personally, I enjoy traveling and experiencing other cultures, especially through their food! I also love sports, music, and playing games. Most of all, I love to have FUN and believe that laughter truly is the best medicine!
An Acknowledgment Of This Land & It's Ancestral Stewards
We acknowledge that we are live, work, and benefit from the stolen ancestral lands of the Puyallup, Muckleshoot, Cayuse, Umatilla, and Walla Walla Tribes whose ancestors once cared for and thrived upon this land and whose descendants still live unacknowledged and stripped of their rightful lands. We participate in "Real Rent Duwamish," which pays monthly rent to the Duwamish Tribe who were the First Peoples of the Seattle area, and we commit ourselves to ongoing education and advocacy in support of the First Peoples of our community and our country. We give thanks to the ancestral stewards of these lands that nourish us and promise to honor, treasure, and care for our Earth in as many ways as we can.
